Wednesday, 29 April 2020
AFTER CONFINEMENT: DIVORCE EPIDEMIC?
The stress of isolation could affect the relationship.
One of the collateral effects of the coronavirus, which surely was not among the possible consequences analyzed by the government, are the problems of coexistence that have occurred in many Spanish homes; One of the reasons is spending too much time together that has brought back old and new couple conflicts. The closed door exacerbates the annoying effect we sometimes feel towards your partner's little hobbies.
We now spend 24 hours at home and 7 days a week, spending time with our partner more hours than we are used to; the lack of physical and social activity during confinement causes us stress and anxiety, so there are friction of coexistence, and many can decide to end the relationship, for their own mental health.
Just as it happens to us on summer vacations or Christmas, when we spend most of our time with the family, the coronavirus crisis will cause many couples to decide to divorce in Spain as soon as the state of alarm decreed by the Government has ended.
The Chinese city of Xi'an, which has already passed through the worst of the Covid-19 pandemic, has experienced a spike in divorces after compulsory quarantine has ended.
According to information published by the Chinese newspaper Global Times, the increase in divorce requests began to register on March 1, 2020. However, as the newspaper reports, some couples only quarreled during confinement, but once resumed the normal rhythm of life, things calm down; There were even some couples who started the process but repented and gave up divorcing. Some young couples even decided to remarry while their divorce certificate was being printed.
If you want this confinement due to coronavirus not to take its toll on your partner, don't forget:
- Communication, fundamental.
- Living together is not a race to see who is better and who does more.
- Tolerance, we are doing the best we can.
- Understanding and support, we help each other.
- Consensus, we are a team.
- Time for intimate moments as a couple and in solitude too.
- Not making final decisions at such a critical time as this.
“If you try hard and win, everything will be fine. But don't forget, in the face of frustration and helplessness, zero violence. ”
Thursday, 23 April 2020
FURTIVE LOVES IN SANT JORDI
One more year the Sant Jordi festival arrives, which is celebrated with great joy and enthusiasm throughout Catalonia, as we all know on April 23 the streets of cities and towns gather with people, it is a day to stroll among stands of books and roses ; but this year the streets of Barcelona and all of Catalonia will be uninhabited, but he moves to our homes to make confinement more enjoyable.
Tradition establishes that on this day the gentlemen give a rose to their partner, their friends, companions or relatives, and they give a book to men; But even though the dyad has been postponed, couples, friends and families will want to show their love with a rose or a book.
Sant Jordi is a date that over the years is about remembering a tradition based on love and culture; this celebration is known in the world as the “Catalan Valentine”.
This Thursday is a day that is very special, especially for couples and lovers, but not for everyone, it is a day of love at its best, since several studies have found that it is on this date that couples break up usually discovered that they did not either what they expected or because extramarital affairs come to light.
BUT WHO WILL SUSPECT, IF WE NOW TELEWORK?
For some couples, 24/7 coexistence is a time bomb and online relationships an escape valve.
The magic of the internet and the use of social networks and platforms for extramarital adventures work very well to find people online during the Coronavirus, they predict that the longer the confinement lengthens, the more it will be pulled from these virtual meeting points.
There are many signs that give away a digital infidel and now we list some of them:
1. MESSAGES AT EVERY MOMENT: it is normal that you use your phone to communicate with your friends and family, you must be alert to the hours of use, especially if it is until the wee hours of the morning; Or are you always worried about responding, the situation is suspicious.
2. ALWAYS PENDING ON YOUR MOBILE: if you do not leave your mobile or go to the bathroom and get upset if someone touches you, the probability that you hide something are very high.
3. DELETE ALL: unless we are obsessive, very few delete their search history, WhatsApp messages and photos from phones or other mobile devices perhaps because there is something to hide.
4. BLOCKS YOU FROM YOUR FRIENDS: if it is your partner, you do not have to hide from your list of friends, but if you eliminate or block it, it is a clear sign that something strange is happening.
5. TURN OFF YOUR MOBILE PHONE WITHOUT EXPLANATION: many people turn off their mobile devices at night, but if your partner does it when a call or message occurs, it is because they do not want to raise suspicions.
Having an alternate relationship digitally has never been so easy, so if you notice any of the aforementioned behaviors in your partner and if you believe that your partner is being unfaithful you want to demonstrate it safely and legally, do not hesitate to contact Contact with Oliver Detectives where we guarantee the necessary tests.
Thursday, 9 April 2020
NEIGHBORHOOD CONFLICTS: WHICH ARE THE MOST COMMON?
Living in the community should never be
appreciated as a negative factor, since it can be very bearable if we follow
the basic rules of coexistence, but currently with the state of alarm decreed
by the Government to stop the epidemic of COVID-19 (Coronavirus) it is causing
roses and problems between neighbors. Specifically, in Barcelona the City Guard
received only this Tuesday a total of 1865 calls for problems of the neighborhood
coexistence.
However, there are certain issues that can
create controversy, but nothing that does not have a solution, they even come regulated
in the Horizontal Property Law, which is in charge of ensuring that all
neighborhood conflicts are resolved.
What are the main sources of problems
in the community?
Now we list the most common problems and do a
mental exercise to be able to solve it and succeed and with better results.
1. Respect for common areas: this is the cause of many conflicts and
children are usually involved who, by not finding spaces in their homes, seek
to spread outside of them.
2. The noises: this is perhaps one of the most common and protagonist of great
discussions, especially in buildings where each step can be heard even with
magnification; Even the barking of a dog represents one of the great
neighborhood conflicts.
3. Individual reforms: carrying out works on the floors outside the hours
established by the neighborhood council brings great pitched battles and even
within the hours in which it could be carried out.
4. The parties: before parties or works outside the permitted hours (which in Barcelona
is established in the strip that runs from 7:00 a.m. to 11:00 p.m., although it
varies in other locations, the most common being from 9:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m.), It is more advisable to ask the neighbor to kindly stop. If this neighbor
decides to continue his activity, a complaint can be made individually to the
authorities who will immediately go to stop the noise.
5. Late payment: if the neighborhood conflicts have already been agreed, they will
continue when one of the members does not pay a fee agreed by consensus.
6. Take security measures: from closing a door as a security measure and everyone
abiding by it will be a safe fight until something serious happens or the
security of the group is violated.
7. The trash: if each floor or house is not responsible for removing it and placing
it in the appropriate container and in the worst-case leaves traces of liquids
or odors in the common areas when removing it, it will always generate
neighborhood conflicts that will dilate with little aim to be solved.
Unfortunately, there are many occasions when
confrontations with neighbors occur that can hardly be proven through a police the report, since the noise, waste, or any inconvenience, has already passed when
the authorities arrive.
In order to face neighborhood conflicts with
intelligence and a lot of patience, it is necessary to be attentive and with a
cold mind in order to have several alternatives to solve the problem and our
Oliver Detectives agency works to solve conflicts of this type, providing the
necessary evidence so that our client has all the necessary tools for the
authorities to take action on the matter.
Remember that everyone has different
personalities and the secret is to understand him and learn to cope with
differences. Your neighbors share the spaces with you, living with them is a
necessity.