Wednesday 10 October 2018

Maturity begins when the nest is abandoned

The reasons why young people postpone their parents leaving the house are the most varied, from the later marriages, the increase of schooling, the higher living costs or even the maternity in older age, all contribute to that the adult phase starts later than the supposed one. Whether due to emotional or economic factors, the truth is that several young people reach the age of 30 and still live with their family. 

Many of them continue to depend entirely on their parents, never having worked in life, not having any kind of economy, others, however, despite having some financial independence, choose to continue living in the parents' house because they feel more comfortable in this way. All of them are accommodated in this situation and in some cases even the parents themselves adapt to this condition of life, preferring it to be perpetuated. 

There are many cases in which young people choose to live in their parents' homes until later age due to the valorization of university education to the detriment of secondary education, which increases the likelihood of a more comfortable life in the future. They are encouraged to study for more years, because the process for a good academic education is long, which delays their entry into the labor market and consequently to the said "adult world". Of course, all this brings its disadvantages, as in the case of finance charges that are being postponed, many of them even ponder what will be the advantage of leaving their parents' house if they can continue to enjoy youth without truly taking responsibility for their self-supply since parents do it for them. Many do not even see advantages in becoming "adults" so soon. 

There are some cases in which parents are comfortable with this type of situation, believing that in a way that is a way of showing love for their children, in other situations parents have to resort to justice to ensure that their children do something with their lives, without their dependence on them forever.

The most popular case today and in analogy with this issue, occurred in the United States, where the parents of a young man had to go to court to get his son out of the house. According to the parents, the young man, 30 years old, did not work, did not study, and did so little in domestic tasks. Fed up with this situation and after constant warnings that he would have to leave the house, all of them without success, they had no alternative but to resort to the court. Luckily justice gave them the right and the son had to finally pack and leave home permanently from his parents.

Another similar process, which took place here in Spain relatively recently, deals with a subject that is a little more sensitive. A young woman, also of 30 years of age, who with scant school performance and despite her age, never joined the labor market or even finished her academic training. This girl, daughter of separated parents, continued living in her mother's house and receiving a pension from her father. However, given the financial situation of his father, who lived in absolute poverty because the little he was earning was almost entirely for the daughter's alimony, the court considered that it was not necessary to continue maintaining that pension.

In fact, the law does not oblige parents to take care of their children who are of age in an unlimited and absolute way.

So you know ... think twice before having children because they may raise ravens and take their eyes out.

Sindia Alves and A. Oliver
Anthropologist and Private Investigator
of Oliver Detectives


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